“Be yourself. Don’t try too hard – it shows.” – Amar’e Stoudemire
A lot of times when we watch certain shows or read stories someone is always trying to do whatever they can to impress someone else. Whether it’s a young, big eyed girl trying to impress a man on a first date, or some “losers” in high school trying to do whatever they can to get into the cool kids party, someone is always changing something about themselves in order to gain approval from someone else.
Typically they succeed in looking cool, they realize this isn’t who they are, they show their true selves and they either go back to their normal lives or the other person likes the real them even better.
Boom. End Script. Roll Credits. Sign me a fat check. Send me to Beverly Hills in a fancy car with a tiny dog inside.
Though movies and stories like these can be very predictable we sometimes fail to see that there is some truth behind them.
Why is it that the main character hates pretending to be something that he or she is not?
It’s because that’s not who you are supposed to be. There’s only one person in the world you are the best at being and that person is yourself.
I learned a valuable lesson about this when I was walking in beach town in southern California last week with my aunt and cousin. She was telling us about how when she grew up in a small town in Illinois she was afraid at times to admit things about herself in fear of others criticism. She grew up in a household that was very Catholic, but as she grew older she realized that she did not agree with Catholicism and started having more Atheistic views. She felt as though she couldn’t admit this in a small town in the Midwest and kept her beliefs to herself. Then after she graduated college she moved out to California and met some great people that taught her how to be herself.
She gained a new confidence in herself and started expressing herself and her views because she knew she wouldn’t be judged for the way she thinks. She is loving her life and lives in a beautiful area. She is probably the friendliest and happiest person I have ever met.
Don’t ever feel like you have to change who you are just for another person. If the guy or girl you like doesn’t feel the same or if the friends you try to make don’t agree with the same views you have it doesn’t matter. There will be people out there who will love you for who you are that you will never have to force a conversation with.
They could be right in your hometown or halfway across the country, but you will find them eventually.
Life has a strange little way of working out like that.
So in the meantime until you find those people that that show you the world you always wanted just enjoy the ride there. Yeah, it sucks not knowing when it’ll happen, but it will be worth it when it finally arrives.
No one is worth changing yourself for.
No one, I promise.
So keep doing the things you love and find your true passions in life.
The real purpose and happiness you have been searching for in your life.
It’s worth all the effort you will put in, I promise.
Good luck and I hope this made you smile!